Healing From a Not So Merry Christmas!

As a child I had such wonderful childhood Christmases with my immediate and extended family. I remember going to my grandparents’ house with all my many aunts, uncles, and cousins.

These Christmases lasted on up into my adult years until the time when my father left my mother after forty four years of marriage. I had gone through a divorce also just a few years before. I still remember the Christmas Eve that I had to go visit my father with his new wife and without my mother.

It was hard breaking free from their home to get to my mother’s house and I also had to deliver my two daughters to their father’s house afterwards to see him. So the ideal Christmas was just not happening to me that year.

When I got to my mother’s house she was so upset because I had spent more time with my father and his new wife than her. Then when I took my children to their father’s house he jumped on me for having them longer than he got to have them. I left there in tears, I thought I would never enjoy another Christmas and my world was falling in.

It felt so impossible and out of sorts! Through it all, my faith in Jesus grew stronger and stronger. He was all that I had and I grew closer to Him. He actually used all of the sadness and trauma that happened in those times to equip me to have a life of helping others walk through such things.

He has given me a new husband and family. I now have four children and nine of the most beautiful grandchildren. My life is filled with vibrancy and excitement. My father just recently passed away, September 1, 2020. I had always hoped that my dad would outlive the woman that he married and he did. He even got to come visit me at my knew home and spend time as a family there with my mom joining us also.

I also got this beautiful nativity scene that he had carved and it was so special for me to receive that when I didn’t expect to get anything and really wasn’t expecting it.

So many things have been restored and now I can enjoy my Christmases again. Though my father passed this year, he lived 97 years and was such an amazing WWII Veteran.

Now that I’m older and understand better, it means so much to me that he had a very large part in saving the Jewish people from Hitler. In fact it affected his life and when he left my mother he said, “Blame it on the war!” We didn’t understand what he meant at the time but now that I have been trained in helping others, I do understand, because he was never given any counseling or help after all the trauma that he lived through.

God showed me after my father passed, that just like he helped bring the Jewish people to freedom, that Marty (my husband) and I are bringing many people now to freedom! Freedom from past traumas and disappointments.

He earned many medals and we are now waiting to hear when his funeral service will be held at Arlington Cemetery in Washington D.C.

I’m so grateful to still have my mother that is 93 and I’m so grateful for all of the restoration that my Heavenly Father has given me in my life.

Luke 2:14 “Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”

I’m grateful for the life that I’ve been given and the legacy that my past generations have left behind.

I’m grateful for all of the imperfections because they shaped me and made my story to be what it is today.

There is always hope!

Forgiveness and love never fail!

Merry Christmas to you and may you have hope and goodwill!

Reach out to us if you need anything!

Next time jill 🌸

Perspective Can Rescue You

What if I would tell you that you can train your mind to think the right things? Yes, I probably have already told you this before.

It just keeps getting hit home to me loud and clear and that’s why I have to remind people about it every once in a while!

This can sound very fluffy and simple but it is VERY deep. It means everything! Our mind and our thinking directs and leads many of our other actions.

Let’s say we go through a trauma and our mind is telling us to react to it and shut down our whole life and give up. Is that what we do? Or do we rise up against what our mind is telling us and refuse to cave and instead make something positive out of what we went through.

I believe that is what we were really created to do, use the thing we went through as an example and a story to help others overcome.

I can’t even tell you all of the wild things that have been like a common occurrence in my life. I chose along time ago to not have a “poor pitiful me” attitude about it. I chose to dig deep, fight through all of my issues, and use them to help others.

Many people want to have pride and hide in shame the things that have happened to them. It doesn’t make us bad because things have happened to us! Most of them are not our fault and have nothing to do with us! It’s just things that happen in this fallen world.

We can train our mind to do anything and the rest of our body follows. I’m not going to say that we don’t get stunned a bit or shocked or hurt! But once we work through all the emotions that go with it, which is a normal process, we move on and use it as a story and example to help others.

It’s not such a huge, big thing that ruins our life forever then. It can keep us from physical problems and many other calamities and chaos.

We don’t need to hide from things or run from them in denial. We learn to:

Sounds easy doesn’t it? It’s lots easier than carrying a bunch of baggage around and hiding from it! Learn to let it go and just use the story to help others!

I’m not telling you that life is easy all the time, I’m just telling you that if you think it’s easy it will be! If you need help sorting through some of life’s traumas and emotions get ahold of me! I’ve been through so much that it became a hobby and a passion for me to help others!

These are my three books if you would like to learn more about this! Remember….You and God have this together! He can help you get out of any mess! I know because I’ve experienced it!

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075RR686Z/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_mH6SFbX0A7Q32 🌸first book🌸

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CB7VVK7/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_AN6SFbA8XQR36 🌸second book🌸

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B081DJRM9Z/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_pP6SFbBFGR6K6 🌸third book🌸

Face it!

Feel it!

Forget it!

You can move on!

There’s a purpose for it all!

🌸love you, ~jill🌸

Transformation ❣️

This morning I sat out under the porch on a beautiful morning and listened to a message about the orphan spirit! That is what we help people get free from! It is huge in our world, people feel like they don’t belong!

In my three books I spoke about how much recovery groups have helped me. I didn’t have much confidence about some of the writing in my books because I didn’t want to sound like I was coming against the church! My story is my story though! I was so excited to hear a leader present this message today!

https://youtu.be/lskIVgwjbic

This is my message confirmed!! This is the movement that has been birthed inside of me for years and years! This is my story, my life and my destiny! This gives me confidence to promote my books like I have never had before! This is my voice that has gone through much opposition to not be silenced!

I just lost my Dad five days ago and I’ve seen that he helped the Jewish people get free from the Nazis in Germany and that legacy of freeing people has been handed down to me!

I am to help the Church get free from Religion! It’s a movement, it’s a New Wineskin it’s freedom from legalism! I am not afraid to share anymore! I know that it is needed! God even brought a meeting called “Overcomers” across the highway from us to attend that is the Twelve Steps presented exactly how I would present them to the Church!

I am trusting my Heavenly Father to bring this all together! A.A. is the perfect blueprint to follow and the purpose is transformation! How many people need transformation today? Many!

These three books mention transformation in a life that could have been shipwrecked beyond repair! If you need some transformation please read these books!

You will find them on Amazon!

You may need to be delivered from a religious mindset or you may have been hurt by religion! That needs to be gone from your life! It can block creativity and freedom! It can even block transformation because you may be trying to do things in your own strength!

When we are weak is when He can be strong!! 2 Corinthians 12:10

We are not supposed to depend on our gifts, we are not supposed to be self reliant, we are supposed to lean on our Heavenly Father! All things flow freely from that place!

Reach out if you need us!

Love never fails!

We need God in our communication and relationships!!

Let’s get real and stop the pretense!

We all need help!

See you soon!

~jill🌸~