Let the holidays flow❣️🎄

I’ve had many holidays that have been so, so hard! Too many changes and way too much chaos! It didn’t matter how wonderful it was… it still felt out of sorts!

One year my Dad had just left my Mom after 44 years of marriage, and we had to go to my Dad’s house, then to my Mom’s. Anyone that has been through a divorce in any form knows that it can get messy!

We headed to my Dad’s house and now we had to “shift” into the idea of a whole new structure in our family. Life as it was, would no longer be. Now instead of going to my parent’s nice, cozy home where my dad had just remodeled and put in a new fireplace, we went to his new, different home and didn’t know what to get this new person that we didn’t even know.

To make matters a tad more complex, I had just gotten remarried and my kids and I had to go to a whole new family there also. My kids probably saw it as a lot more presents and a lot more fun places to go, but I saw it as a lot more presents to buy and a lot more confusion.

That year I remember going to my mom’s and seeing how hurt she was that we had spent so much time at my dads and then taking my kids to their dad and getting yelled at for not bringing them sooner! As I’m writing this I remember saying to myself, “I hate Christmas and I don’t even want to celebrate it again!”

I realize that it started me hating Christmas and never wanting to celebrate it again. I am so grateful that I have learned that I can break vows that I have made in my life! Vows that we make in our life can hold us in a pattern! It doesn’t matter what we have been through…. we certainly do not have to hate Christmas or anything else!There is forgiveness, there is restoration for anything and everything in your life.

We can not compare our situation to anyone else’s situation! We just have to decide for ourselves what is right for us and what fits in our life! We just can’t live like the Hallmark movies all the time! Sometimes we have to find our own peace in the midst of our own storm! The best that we can “go with the flow” the better off we can be. I have 4 things that will help you enjoy it better if you have had complications like I have had… I think if we were to be honest, in this world we live in, most families have some complications! May not be exactly like mine, but definitely not Hallmark!🎄❤️

1. Turn off your expectations! You never know what may happen so just go with it!

2. Turn on your forgiveness and listen a little more than you talk!

3. Little things are just as special as bigger things! Sometimes more so!

4. Buying someone a gift is not a sign of how much you care about them!

Whoops one more!

5. They probably aren’t expecting as much from you as what you are thinking! And if they are, they need to learn Number 1. These things have certainly helped me.

My Christmas is lots more about “Peace on Earth and Good Will Toward Men!” Thinking of my Saviour being brought to Earth to bring these things to a hurting world!

I sincerely hope that you may find Hope, Peace, and Comfort this holiday season! Let the holiday flow the way it will, and look at the little hidden treasures along the way!

I went a funeral yesterday and got to meet my grandmother’s cousin, that officiated the funeral…my mom that’s 91 mentioned to him who she was and he said, “Oh my! you are a DaVault and you are walking in high cotton!” I love that phrase and when he said it, it reminded me of my me-mow (my grandmother) and it brought tears to my eyes. The phrase was from gentler days! Another treasure that has happened to me this year!!

Look for the hidden treasures!

They are important!

You are important!

You are ROYALTY!!

Don’t let anything steal your worth!

We are ALL walking in HIGH cotton!!

See you soon!❤️🎄