In the face of dishonor…

I just wrote a book about honoring others. In my book I am not saying to honor people that are abusing you. I mention in the book that you have to have boundaries. Boundaries are bridges, and not walls.

What do I mean by that? Boundaries are done with much love and humility involved, but definitely taking care of yourself.

If someone is just against us and we have done everything we can to get along, sometimes we just have to let go. Lots of people today are coming from an orphan spirit and they are hurt inside so they are hurting others. They may picture you as the person that abused them. They could have an agenda against you, trying to control you.

Some very important tools that I have learned from dealing with addicts is this the 3 C’s…” I didn’t cause it, I can’t cure it, and I can’t control it.” This lets me know that I don’t have to feel guilt about the things being hurled at me.

It seems just easier to throw “hard to deal with people” in the trash but what I have learned is that there is a lesson for me to learn here… and if I do not stop and learn the lesson, I will go around the same ole’ mountain again with another person. Keep in mind, whether someone is an addict, a narcissist, or whatever, there are still things that I must learn. Is it forgiveness, boundaries, communication, or even a new skill set or tool about relationships? It’s not always just good guy, bad guy and about us being a victim. Sometimes it’s about us learning maturity and authority.

We just really do have to sit down, look in the mirror, get humble, and work on ourselves. We can try to run from that forever, but we just can’t hide. Another thing that I have learned is that when someone is against you and mad at you and accusing you, if you diffuse it by saying, ” You could be right.” It makes things turn around in a way that we can’t imagine. I’m not saying that’s right in every situation, I’m just saying in some conversations that can turn things around. I haven’t really had a choice but to “go low,” work on my own character, and do the best I can to build bridges wherever I can.

We really do reap what we sow in life and if I am gracious with others it is sure to turn around and happen to me from others, not everyone, but from many.

What can you see in yourself that comes out when your buttons are pushed? Are you a victim? Are you unforgiving? Do you need more freedom to be able to be more mature in some areas and operate in these things? We REALLY can shift and change. Most of the change comes from humbling ourselves, admitting we need help and can’t do everything alone and learning how to start doing it💜

I know, it’s better to say, ” But you don’t know what I’ve been through and these people have done to me.” Yes I do and yes our Lord does… forgiveness does not necessarily mean walking in life in relationship with some folks, it simply releases us from them having the power to control us.

I think the main thing that I have always done right in my life is to admit that I can’t do it alone. I was the type that even paid and went to counseling when I didn’t have any money. There was a time when I was a single mom that I was going to counseling and I started getting checks in the mail paying the exact amount that my counseling sessions were… they were anonymous but I really think they were from the counselor because she knew that I wanted help but I couldn’t afford it!! That’s how our God works!! He exalts a humble heart!! I always want to have a humble and Teachable spirit!!!

Love you all❤️💜❤️

Humility rocks!!❤️💜❤️

Pride and unforgiveness suck!!❤️💜❤️

There’s freedom for everyone!! ❤️💜❤️

If it’s gonna be… it’s up to me!!❤️💜❤️

See you soooooon!!!😘❤️💜