Talk about Restoration…

Well on Saturday we got to join my 2 stepbrothers, whom I had never met, my husband, Dad, brother, and nephew to clean out my Dad’s home that we had just moved him out of.

He had left my mom after 44 years of marriage and married another woman. This had happened 20 something years ago. I’m sure you can imagine that this was quite a sad day! I prayed for him for many years that I would get to talk to him and be around him before he passed away.

Well this process started and we went and moved all of his things out. There had been a period of time that I didn’t get to be in touch with him and I thought about different things that he had wood carved and was sorry that I didn’t get any of them. I had thought about all of the home movies that he had taken and I probably would never see them again.

I just have to share, I got to stand in a room of my 95 year old Dad’s house and remind him of things like the movies and he would practically run to get them. We got in the top of a closet and there was a beautiful hand carved nativity scene that my Dad had hand carved….I have wanted one of those all my life!! ๐Ÿ˜ต

Then he handed me the letter that I had sent him trying to get him to wake up and come home… he had kept it all those years. My stepbrothers would joke and laugh about how they knew someone that wanted to buy these things and my Dad said, “No!! These are hers!!” He fought for me more powerful than he ever had in my life!!

He then gave me this:

And this:

The most important thing was that we got him back. How many of you are waiting to get someone to come back that you have had to let go of? I couldn’t imagine how there would ever be restoration for any of this but there is always HOPE for RESTORATION.

Marty and I got to watch the home movies that my Dad had turned into DVDs. He got to see our family vacations and our family’s Christmas together. Such special memories. I even got to show some of them to my 91 year old Mom yesterday! Who would have thought I would get to do that one day. I am so grateful!๐Ÿ’œ

Always HOPE!

Always BELIEVE!

It may not get answered how we thought it would but something good will happen!

Be willing to SHIFT your thinking!!

You have a story that will turn out well!!

Never give up!!

See you soon!!โค๏ธ

October ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‚๐Ÿ

Let’s make October great!! It really is up to us, you know! We can either crawl in with our heads beat down and our tails between our legs feeling overcome and beat up or we can say this:

This was from my coach yesterday morning on her page!! I loved this and I am learning more and more that what we believe actually comes forth!

I know that I have to fight off all the negative things that try to overtake my mind each day! These things were sent to stop us dead in our tracks from pursuing our dreams and destiny!

We need to get up each morning and tap into our source that is bigger than us to make us make it through the day shining and spilling over to help others in their lives!

Joy gives us power and strength!! Try to seek out the things that make you joyful today! That is different for different folks! I’m sitting here this am and I’m looking outside at the beautiful fall morning! It’s my mom’s 91 birthday today! I’m so grateful for that and I’m taking her up to see her sister in our old hometown! That brings me joy today!!

I think I will try to stay tapped into joy everyday throughout October! Yesterday I succeeded in getting a Facebook ad on that I had been working on for several weeks! That almost felt the same as publishing a book to me! Launching something brand new out into the atmosphere for the world to see!! Wow I like to create new things!! It is really hard… but when it is finished it is so, so worth it!

What are some things that you will do everyday to find joy through October? You definitely don’t compare your life to anyone else’s life on this earth! That can get us into self-pity and not being content with what we have!!

Every one of us has losses and hard times!! Those smiling faces on Facebook have many tears and pretense behind them!! We have to choose to take our hardships and turn them to Stepping Stones!! Hey that’s in my book:

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Yes I’ve lived a whole life of Turning my Stumbling Blocks into Stepping Stones! We have to keep up the faith, hope, and dreams that are imparted into us!

Your life is supposed to be your life! Just learn the lessons as you walk through it! Your life is amazing! You have been given everything to make it fabulous and successful… now just do it!!!

Change things if you have to!! Wake some things back up!! Find new people, new adventures and new thoughts and mindsets!! You can and will do this!!

Start now!!

Take the plunge!!

Don’t compare!!

Don’t pity yourself!!

Make your story come alive!!

DO NOT STOP!!

See you soon!!โค๏ธ

Emotionally, spiritually, physically aligned…

I remember years ago when I was living in hard, chaotic, traumatic circumstances that a counselor I was seeing always reminded me that I had to be aligned emotionally, spiritually, and physically. That means to take care of ourselves in all of those ways.

Sometimes I will be moving along and just be meeting one of those needs and I realize I am getting out of wack. Once I add in the missing one I feel like my life is more centered.

During the time while writing my book I was way centered around that… not lots of time to be concerned about fitting all of the other things in. I believe God gives us lots of grace in time like that, but there comes a time when we have to fit the other things in too.

When I was first given the dream to help people I knew that it would involve helping in all of these areas. It’s gone full circle and now I’ve picked up a piece of the puzzle that I had to lay down for a time.

I have been a hairstylist for 40-something years. That has been a great career for me because I love to talk and hang out with people. I LOVE relationships. That really meets all of 3 things for me. I have gradually been retiring that and things have shifted.

There was a word spoken to me by one of my mentors that said:

Soooo for the last few years the spiritual part of me has been being fine tuned. I have been finding my identity. I have been finding my purpose. I have been receiving my voice, writing my story, and bringing it all together to be the unique me that is to be heard on this earth.

My husband just came in and said that I have mercy and justice in my DNA. The personality that I was given and the gifts and the things that I have experienced bring me to the purpose, place and position that I am in today…. what is yours? Has yours been lost? Have you not had time to find it lately? Is it buried so deep that you can’t find it?

I had a dream to have my own natural Bath and Body business and I have done that in the past. The part I like about it the most is the nurturing it does to people. I like natural because it’s not harmful and it is just fun, the smell of different scents and to see different colors. That brings in all of our 5 senses and creativity.

I love to create new things. Can you start finding out all about you? I have just recently picked up the Jordan Essentials products that I have been presenting to others. When I was doing it before I didn’t know who I was. I thought I didn’t deserve for anyone to buy anything from me, that I just needed to always be giving to them.

Now I know about value. I got that lesson deep down inside and I know if people don’t invest in something they don’t value it. I have seen that first hand. I will enjoy the products for me… they nurture me, they make me feel better emotionally and physically. I enjoy and have fun with the people. I will spread the goodness.

I encourage you to find you!! It’s important we need for the real you to show up!! If you need help in doing that let me know! We are offering coaching packages. I’ve always had to get help… every step of the way.

Enjoy your day!

Find you!

Ask for help!

Don’t let pride get in your way!

You have lots to say!!

See you soon!โค๏ธ

Let it go…

We just a few days ago got home from a wonderful vacation! Everyplace that we visited showed me ways that I have learned to let go of things and ended up getting blessed for doing so.

The first stop was in Gatlinburg, Tennessee. Our reservation had been double booked so I got contacted by a person that said she had already talked to a friend and we could get in another place that was an upgrade. I already knew the “letting go” concept and I immediately thought, “oh cool an upgrade!” And ohhhhh myyyyy it was a perfect place for us!! Each couple had their own bedroom and hot tub… plus a hot tub outside, wrap around porch and a pool outside!! Woo hoo!! All from just ” letting go!!”

We got this whole building!!๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

Another thing in Gatlinburg was getting to spend time with my children and their families. My oldest daughter is married to Rachel, the most precious young lady. In the beginning, I didn’t understand because my daughter, Lindsay never showed any signs of being gay in her whole life and in her thirties decided this… what did I need to do? Let it go and love. I do love both of them and they are a great gift in my life. My life would not be complete without Rachel in it.โค๏ธ

Also my other daughter, Beth, and her husband and 3 daughters stayed with us. It was so great to get to stay in this beautiful big cabin with all the amenities and get to hear Little Gigi waking up early saying, “Mimi and Papa” like a little chatterbox early in the morning!! โค๏ธ Millie, the 11 year old actually slept in the bed with Marty and I and I loved soaking up those moments together! She’s growing up and I have to accept and let go in the different seasons in life ahead!

We drove 12 hours on down to Port Charlotte, Florida to see Marty’s daughter Allison and her husband and 4 children. Allison was a challenge to us when we got married, mixed up in many things. We had to let her go and didn’t get to talk to her or her children for a year. It is good to see her married to a great guy now that loves her children more than life itself. We got to stay at her Mother and Father in law’s home and I slept like a baby in this home. It felt like I was at my mom’s or my grandma’s house and I hadn’t felt that feeling in a long time. She loves all of them and is instilling things into their life and ours that are invaluable.

If you read my first book, you might recall that my Father left my mom after 44 years of marriage and married another woman. Well, while we were on this trip staying at Gaga’s (Allison’s mom in law)… an amazing thing took place. My brother met with my stepbrothers, whom I had never met, at my dad’s home. My dad, a 95 year old man, had been taking care of this woman for years and she had become an invalid. He was changing her catheter 2 times a day, mowing the lawn, had taken care of her through 6 major surgeries since they had been married. This was a man that left my mom saying that he was leaving to enjoy his retirement. So what did I have to learn through all of this, “Let it go.” Yes I had to do this with my dad..BIG TIME.

While I was gone on vacay, she finally told her sons that if my dad was gone that she would go into a nursing home… my brother quietly took him away to live with him in Bowling Green, Kentucky and she went to be taken care of in a nursing home. What? This was impossible and happened so easily!! They had signed a prenuptial agreement that her kids got her things and his kids got his and they had kept everything separate. We got to stop and see my dad on the way home from Florida and he seemed so peaceful at my brother’s house. He is an amazing survivor of World War II in the Battle of the Bulge. He told me that he’s writing a book and every time he gets to the point where he got wounded he has nightmares and can’t go on… he told me things I had never heard before… he’s had an extremely hard life. I’m so glad he’s peaceful now.โค๏ธ

My mom is 90 and lives a few miles from me…she’s amazing. She lives in assisted living and hardly complains about anything. She came to me one day and told me she was ready to go live there, she didn’t want to keep me from living out what I’m supposed to be on this earth! She knew that there was a special purpose for me. Then she drove over here one day and said, ” Here’s my keys…tell Marty to sell my car.” I can only hope to be the people that my parents have been.

I think I’ve had the most special, wonderful vacay that I have ever been on!!!

One last thing, when we got home, I thought I would put the hummingbird feeder out one more time to see if the 20 or more hummingbirds would come before winter. It didn’t happen the first day, or the second… but sure enough, this morning I have counted 5 so far!!!๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

Just let go!!

It’s not your’s to carry!!

You don’t have to be responsible for everyone else, only you!!

Life can be happy no matter what!!

Live and Let Live!!

See you soon!!โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜˜