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Break the boxes!

You’ve heard the saying, “You weren’t created to fit in, you were born to stand out!” Well, from what I’ve experienced the only way we can get there is to walk through tough things.

Those tough things take us right out of the boxes that we are in. Those tough places change EVERYTHING! It changes our comfort zone, it changes our relationships, it may make us stronger and bolder, it may make us calm down and be quieter.

Whatever change needs to happen seems to happen in tough situations. Have you learned to not run from tough things in your life? To accept them as part of the formation that you are supposed to be walking through?

If we were born in a hard family, maybe it was meant to be. If we were in a hard marriage that even ended in divorce just maybe that was part of our story to shape who we are today.

Every hard thing can be restored and renewed! Anything is redeemable. Isn’t that a wonderful miracle? That’s great news! Our story is very valuable and can change lives!

Sometimes suffering can even bring protection. These words that I’m speaking are tough to listen to and accept. We could be heading completely off in a wrong direction and God can see the whole picture in our lives. Consequences in life can put the skids on us to stop, wake up, and get on track in certain ways.

Maybe we are taking people for granted, maybe we are wearing ourselves out, maybe we need to be closer to God and hear His voice. Obstacles in our life can guide and direct us to get all of these things lined out.

Marty and I love to help people with these hard places! We love to help people be on track in their lives and go the right direction. Contact us for a free session to help get the right perspective for your life and destiny.

Your story is worth sharing and helping others change. There are so many hurting in our world today that need help. Stop hiding and let your light shine in dark places.

•Break the Box that you are in and help others Break their Box!!

•Get clarity in your destiny!

•Receive healing in your heart!

•Message me to contact me!

•Love to all!

See you soon! jill 🌸

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Waiting is an Art

Last time I wrote was the morning that I was leaving from Florida. Little did I know that when we walked in the door we would see water running through our house. Another interesting adventure that we have absolutely no control over.

We got home March 17th and it is now April 28th and the only thing accomplished was tearing out damaged things and running big fans and trying to dry things out. So we are waiting. We are trying to get things sorted out little by little.

We have been doing a study in our small group called, “Emotionally Healthy Spirituality.” By Peter & Geri Scazzero. It encourages resting and spending time with God and journaling. It’s so amazing how everything that I run into always directs me right into that again.

Two days ago I got so excited because a little bit of creativity clicked in… we ordered a new cabinet for my salon and it’s a rolling big cabinet to put all of my hair tools in. It actually felt like something was being restored, only temporarily of course, but for a few moments it can feel together and be used. I really am retired from my hair styling business but the station comes in handy for when I want to help friends or family with skincare or even a hairstyle.

From the time we actually got going with the final steps of Pier 7 Healing House we have been going through huge character building trials. We are learning to wait and trust God in this process. He is perfecting things in us to be able to do the things that are ahead. He keeps assuring me not to be concerned at all about our age, we will get through this and be able to help many.

We are taking on prayer sessions and helping people here even in the middle of the hot mess that we are living in. We do not ask for money we trust God. It is what we are about, and what all the trauma that we both have walked through is about. We just keep persevering and are grateful for the good things and new mindsets during the process.

We help out at our local church in an Overcomers Recovery Group, attend a local recovery meeting among other things in the community. I believe that why this all happened on the first floor while we were diligently trying to get the second floor finished was because our Heavenly Father wanted the whole building to be finished with excellence for the people coming so they would feel special and valued.

There is another couple that we know that has a big beautiful mansion in our town and offers free meals to people from all walks of life on Sunday evenings. It’s so wonderful to see things that people are giving away for free, prospering so much. I give away natural Lemongrass Spa Products when I can too, and our prayer sessions with people. Sometimes people need encouragement to take good care of themselves! They need to understand that they deserve it!

Patience is a virtue!

Waiting is an art!

Trusting is important!

No time for any self pity!

No time for false expectations!

One day at a time!

Let us know if you need help!

Love you!

🌸jill n marty

p.s. his book being edited too🌸😊 See you soon

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Goals for 2022

We are already in the middle of March for 2022. This year is moving slowly for me. I’ve been trying to get serious about starting my vision board and all I could put is Peace all over the board. That seems to be all I can concentrate on.

That doesn’t seem to be a bad thing to be crying out for this year. In some ways I feel like I can’t move forward out of resting, to pursue goals that I was able to conquer not long ago. I think there may be times of resting and peace and we just can’t feel guilty about it. We just have to roll with what is before us.

Oh I have written several chapters for Marty’s book, we’ve spoken several times at different places, we’ve been very blessed to help out at the Overcomers group at our church, I’ve got a few people that I have the honor of sponsoring from recovery, I get to watch my grandchildren on Fridays, spend time with friends, kids, and my mom… yes these things are some of my favorite things.

I just took on a course that helps with graphic design, Canva, photography and setting up a more professional looking Instagram. We also became a part of a Kingdom Entrepreneur group that helps with ideas and wisdom about many things.

Maybe I just need to go with what’s rolling and not expect it to be like it was a couple of years ago. Yes maybe last year when we went through a year with the word “re-invent” as the word for the year, we should say that it happened. Things got re-invented. Goals are now new, a new normal is evolving. I suppose that it just takes time for the ship to turn around.

Naples Beach, Florida

We can be in the most beautiful place, seeing beautiful sights, experiencing God’s wonderful plan but happen to miss the lesson, the purpose, the story, and the meaning of it all! Yes, there may be a deeper purpose, a deeper thing that we are supposed to catch, something that we can learn, a way that we can dig deeper within ourselves.

What is the bright side? The things to celebrate and be grateful for? What can we be honest about and change? What can we conquer? I’m ready to be home from our trip, we will be leaving in an hour with our two day drive. What can I take home from my trip?

What have I learned from the people I’ve been around? Good and bad? What have I done with situations that were uncomfortable and I couldn’t control? Are there people I have to forgive and not expect too much from? I’m ready to get back home to my own normal and just take time to ponder some of these things.

I think honestly, the only thing that I need to get back in the groove in is my exercise and self-care of me. I’ve been trying to get my habit of doing that going again for several months but haven’t gotten over the hump yet. When I get home I am going to write that on my vision board. It’s time to take the plunge. It’s time to put it in writing and sign my name to it!

•We can conquer!

•We can change!

•We can grow!

•We can forgive!

•We got this!

•I’m here if you need anything!

see ya soon! jill 🌸

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Seasons

So thankful to have made it through 2021 and through our Covid Christmas season to a brand new year. My word for this year is PEACE and that is basically all I have put on my vision board so far this year and it’s January 27.

I want to hang on to PEACE as long as I can and camp out there a bit. Last year was a year of Marty very close to death with Covid in the hospital, my mom fracturing two bones in her back with a fall, and I even ended up in the ER where I had never been before after a UTI.

We all made it through, and ended the year with Marty and I having Covid for Christmas. So thankful that my mom didn’t get it while she was staying with us, and we sat all the Christmas things out on the porch for our kids to get.

Let’s fast forward to now. I’ve had much of a sabbatical to regroup, relaunch, reinvent, and retreat. I spent a few days thinking all dreams were over and that I was just older now and I could watch the young ones enjoy their dreams. But God! He turned it around.

I think when Marty had to sit all those days in the hospital feeling like he was going down, it was a trauma for him. I kept wanting to fix it all year and wanted to fix my mom’s situation too. I could do a little but my hands were tied in many ways. I had to let them go through whatever they had to go through.

We do have to let others go through whatever they have to go through and deal with whatever they have to deal with. As the year went on some things started falling into place and finally when Marty and I sat in the hospital room getting the monoclonal antibodies I believe Marty got even more healing emotionally, this time he wasn’t alone. This time we were conquering it together. I had no idea that something like that would bring him back to himself, but it has.

Maybe he felt abandoned by God before? Maybe he felt like a failure? I’m not sure, but we definitely have to all remember not to judge what others are going through and remember that we are all in this together. There are no definite answers for any of the madness!

Today I’m feeling more slowed down, more in the moment. Not jumping right in, I am thinking a moment before I say yes. I even had a couple of dreams that took me back to where I used to live and people that I used to know there. It made we call old friends and check on people. I found out many were gone from this earth now.

This gave me a kick in the booty to remember the dreams that are inside of me. I’m still here! I’ve got things to do while I’m here. Marty and I have things to do together! We can’t let distractions and opposition stop that! It’s a new season and time to move forward with all the things that we have learned along the way!

Slowly I’m dreaming again!

If we are still here we can’t stop!

If you need help getting back up let me know!

We ARE all in this together!

There is strength in numbers!

See y’all soon!!

Love, jill 🌸

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Peace for 2022

I have decided for sure now that Peace is my word for 2022. I have learned early on how to live with “Peace in the midst of a storm.” I have learned it even more through the year of 2021.

It is very important that we all shut out the clutter and chatter in our minds and listen to that still, small voice. It’s the voice that shows us our flow in the earth. It’s the voice that keeps us in peace no matter what.

Every voice that is speaking to us is not the voice that we need to hear. The voice I need to hear for 2022 is the voice of Peace. I just received a planner for 2022 for a gift and this is what the first page said and it’s confirmation to my soul!

There are moments when I think about all of the honors that my dad received from the army with WWII. I’m sure there were many moments that he had to choose to agree with PEACE in his mind and not war. I believe he left that legacy with me and my call is to help people live in peace in their lives and in their mind, not anger and torment.

Politics is not my call… my call is helping people walk through normalcy. If it is your call I applaud you, but it is not mine. There were three angels that were left behind when my dad passed to help me walk this out. Faith, Courage, and Provision. They are helping me to fulfill this call.

Something that I have seen in 2021 more than anything else is that mostly what I am doing is behind the scenes. I won’t be in a big platform in front of people. I will be in the trenches. God taught me to see that what He thinks is important for my life is what is important, not what I think is important. I’m re-invented. It wasn’t easy but I receive it. I may be misunderstood and rejected at times but that’s okay. I don’t have FOMO…”fear of missing out” anymore.

My lane is a good lane for me. Your lane is a good lane for you. I love your lane. I am for your lane. I’ve learned how to accept people’s different ideas and beliefs and not be against them even though they are not mine. I’m for peace.

My hope is that you are blessed through 2022!

I hope that you find your flow and your purpose!

We all are important and have important purpose on the earth!

My hope is that you will find your call and purpose!

If you need help in doing that… let me know!

Happy 2022!

See you next week!

jill 🌸

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