Month: September 2018

I remember years ago when I was living in hard, chaotic, traumatic circumstances that a counselor I was seeing always reminded me that I had to be aligned emotionally, spiritually, and physically. That means to take care of ourselves in all of those ways.

Sometimes I will be moving along and just be meeting one of those needs and I realize I am getting out of wack. Once I add in the missing one I feel like my life is more centered.

During the time while writing my book I was way centered around that… not lots of time to be concerned about fitting all of the other things in. I believe God gives us lots of grace in time like that, but there comes a time when we have to fit the other things in too.

When I was first given the dream to help people I knew that it would involve helping in all of these areas. It’s gone full circle and now I’ve picked up a piece of the puzzle that I had to lay down for a time.

I have been a hairstylist for 40-something years. That has been a great career for me because I love to talk and hang out with people. I LOVE relationships. That really meets all of 3 things for me. I have gradually been retiring that and things have shifted.

There was a word spoken to me by one of my mentors that said:

Soooo for the last few years the spiritual part of me has been being fine tuned. I have been finding my identity. I have been finding my purpose. I have been receiving my voice, writing my story, and bringing it all together to be the unique me that is to be heard on this earth.

My husband just came in and said that I have mercy and justice in my DNA. The personality that I was given and the gifts and the things that I have experienced bring me to the purpose, place and position that I am in today…. what is yours? Has yours been lost? Have you not had time to find it lately? Is it buried so deep that you can’t find it?

I had a dream to have my own natural Bath and Body business and I have done that in the past. The part I like about it the most is the nurturing it does to people. I like natural because it’s not harmful and it is just fun, the smell of different scents and to see different colors. That brings in all of our 5 senses and creativity.

I love to create new things. Can you start finding out all about you? I have just recently picked up the Jordan Essentials products that I have been presenting to others. When I was doing it before I didn’t know who I was. I thought I didn’t deserve for anyone to buy anything from me, that I just needed to always be giving to them.

Now I know about value. I got that lesson deep down inside and I know if people don’t invest in something they don’t value it. I have seen that first hand. I will enjoy the products for me… they nurture me, they make me feel better emotionally and physically. I enjoy and have fun with the people. I will spread the goodness.

I encourage you to find you!! It’s important we need for the real you to show up!! If you need help in doing that let me know! We are offering coaching packages. I’ve always had to get help… every step of the way.

Enjoy your day!

Find you!

Ask for help!

Don’t let pride get in your way!

You have lots to say!!

See you soon!❤️

We just a few days ago got home from a wonderful vacation! Everyplace that we visited showed me ways that I have learned to let go of things and ended up getting blessed for doing so.

The first stop was in Gatlinburg, Tennessee. Our reservation had been double booked so I got contacted by a person that said she had already talked to a friend and we could get in another place that was an upgrade. I already knew the “letting go” concept and I immediately thought, “oh cool an upgrade!” And ohhhhh myyyyy it was a perfect place for us!! Each couple had their own bedroom and hot tub… plus a hot tub outside, wrap around porch and a pool outside!! Woo hoo!! All from just ” letting go!!”

We got this whole building!!😍👍🏼

Another thing in Gatlinburg was getting to spend time with my children and their families. My oldest daughter is married to Rachel, the most precious young lady. In the beginning, I didn’t understand because my daughter, Lindsay never showed any signs of being gay in her whole life and in her thirties decided this… what did I need to do? Let it go and love. I do love both of them and they are a great gift in my life. My life would not be complete without Rachel in it.❤️

Also my other daughter, Beth, and her husband and 3 daughters stayed with us. It was so great to get to stay in this beautiful big cabin with all the amenities and get to hear Little Gigi waking up early saying, “Mimi and Papa” like a little chatterbox early in the morning!! ❤️ Millie, the 11 year old actually slept in the bed with Marty and I and I loved soaking up those moments together! She’s growing up and I have to accept and let go in the different seasons in life ahead!

We drove 12 hours on down to Port Charlotte, Florida to see Marty’s daughter Allison and her husband and 4 children. Allison was a challenge to us when we got married, mixed up in many things. We had to let her go and didn’t get to talk to her or her children for a year. It is good to see her married to a great guy now that loves her children more than life itself. We got to stay at her Mother and Father in law’s home and I slept like a baby in this home. It felt like I was at my mom’s or my grandma’s house and I hadn’t felt that feeling in a long time. She loves all of them and is instilling things into their life and ours that are invaluable.

If you read my first book, you might recall that my Father left my mom after 44 years of marriage and married another woman. Well, while we were on this trip staying at Gaga’s (Allison’s mom in law)… an amazing thing took place. My brother met with my stepbrothers, whom I had never met, at my dad’s home. My dad, a 95 year old man, had been taking care of this woman for years and she had become an invalid. He was changing her catheter 2 times a day, mowing the lawn, had taken care of her through 6 major surgeries since they had been married. This was a man that left my mom saying that he was leaving to enjoy his retirement. So what did I have to learn through all of this, “Let it go.” Yes I had to do this with my dad..BIG TIME.

While I was gone on vacay, she finally told her sons that if my dad was gone that she would go into a nursing home… my brother quietly took him away to live with him in Bowling Green, Kentucky and she went to be taken care of in a nursing home. What? This was impossible and happened so easily!! They had signed a prenuptial agreement that her kids got her things and his kids got his and they had kept everything separate. We got to stop and see my dad on the way home from Florida and he seemed so peaceful at my brother’s house. He is an amazing survivor of World War II in the Battle of the Bulge. He told me that he’s writing a book and every time he gets to the point where he got wounded he has nightmares and can’t go on… he told me things I had never heard before… he’s had an extremely hard life. I’m so glad he’s peaceful now.❤️

My mom is 90 and lives a few miles from me…she’s amazing. She lives in assisted living and hardly complains about anything. She came to me one day and told me she was ready to go live there, she didn’t want to keep me from living out what I’m supposed to be on this earth! She knew that there was a special purpose for me. Then she drove over here one day and said, ” Here’s my keys…tell Marty to sell my car.” I can only hope to be the people that my parents have been.

I think I’ve had the most special, wonderful vacay that I have ever been on!!!

One last thing, when we got home, I thought I would put the hummingbird feeder out one more time to see if the 20 or more hummingbirds would come before winter. It didn’t happen the first day, or the second… but sure enough, this morning I have counted 5 so far!!!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Just let go!!

It’s not your’s to carry!!

You don’t have to be responsible for everyone else, only you!!

Life can be happy no matter what!!

Live and Let Live!!

See you soon!!❤️😘

We have been traveling quite a bit lately and I’ve been in a vacay mode. I don’t know if we realize what all we do and what it takes to unplug.

I have written and published two books in a fairly short amount of time, and actually worked on one pretty hard while I was on my last vacation.

I have lately been working on getting a video going for a FB ad. It’s getting there little by little. I have learned that you have to let up and go with the flow a little.

I love what that is saying! Sometimes we just need a break from what we are doing, so that we can continue moving forward.

I have a coach that is helping me with the phase that I am in now. I love coaches, I always have loved direct sales companies because I have loved the relationships and the way mentors help you walk through life.

My coach that I have now had a home in Hawaii. When I first started working with her, the lava wasn’t near her home, then it crept closer…one day she mentioned that she had to move out. I know that she had to just be devastated, but didn’t ever bring that into our coaching calls.

Finally, I had to wait a couple of weeks because she had to move to the United States. I had relationship with her so I was on this journey with her. Just recently she had to postpone a call because her WiFi wasn’t hooked up yet. Then, I had to change it again because my granddaughter’s ballgame had been postponed and her parents couldn’t be there.

When we finally got on the call, my information that I was going to use, was no where to be found. We were going to postpone again but it would have been during my vacation. That’s when she said,

” Do you need some time off? Why don’t you just take a rest? When you come back you will be refreshed and we will be ready to go.” She also said, “I’m really glad that you got to go to your granddaughter’s ballgame too.” Wow all of those words were so soothing and I believe that when I return home, I will be refreshed and ready to start back new and I think we need to remember that everyone around us may need some grace and a break today.

Don’t quit….rest!

Remember to bless others!

Have a little empathy!!

Enjoy your day!!

You deserve it!!

See you soon!!❤️😘